This is a guest post I wrote for sexpositiveparenting. It’s a new blog exploring sex and gender issues in parenting.
Originally posted on Sex Positive Parenting:
In the sea of pink that inevitably comes with having a newborn baby girl our eldest daughter seems to have emerged as a slight oddity: she wants to be a boy. For the sake of anonymity I’ll refer to her throughout this article as Taylor. It is has become a unisex name in recent years, but mainly it is her name of choice for when she is a boy. It certainly wasn’t on our list for either a boy or a girl!
Taylor is nearly 5, but from the age of 2 she professed her favourite colour to be green, and has for the most part stuck with that choice. DH and I were slightly smug, right on parents with a girl who eschewed the regulation pink. It quickly became the bane of our lives as everything which came in a colour option had to be green, such is the way with young children. Everyone we spent time with knew to give Taylor the green cup, or green plate. I remember dying with embarrassment when a lovely shop assistant in Lush gave Taylor a bath bomb and she peered inside the bag and said, instead of thank you, “You didn’t give me a green one.”
The desire to be a boy emerged when she was around three. Until then she was obsessed with boys and men, starting obviously with her beloved daddy. Daddy is well and truly her first love. Apart from maternity leave DH and I have always shared childcare, both working and staying at home part time. Sometimes I would come home and Taylor would say “Go in the kitchen mummy, daddy and I are busy”. I would go in the kitchen and have a little weep.